Heartbreak
If It Felt Meant To Be, Then Why Is It Not?
If it felt meant to be, then why is it not? This was a phrase I heard a girl say after experiencing her first heartbreak and it stopped me for a moment. After thinking, I threw back, “What if it felt so right because it was meant to be, but only for that particular time in your life.” I believe everyone crosses our path for a reason and I am sure you’ve heard that phrase before. But the more you sit with it, you allow yourself to be more open to the “why” aspect. And this is where the choice comes in. You see “why” can either start a process of healing and moving towards your future or keep you trapped replaying your past.
So- perhaps you are here because you just got your heart broken. Maybe you are feeling stuck and are in need of a new perspective on that ending. Or maybe it was just meant for you to be reading this. Whichever the case- let’s talk about heartbreak.
It Will Be Okay
Well, if you stumble upon this shortly after your breakup, the last thing you probably want to see are those four dreaded words that are so cliche, “it will be okay.” Sorry, well kinda, I know it hurts right now, but it really will be okay. Maybe not today, tomorrow, or next month…and I hate to say this, but maybe not even this year. But in time you will be okay.
I remember hearing those four atrocious, yet semi-comforting words from many people after experiencing my first heartbreak. I also remember rolling my eyes because how could I possibly be okay when my world was ending? Okay, so I may be a little dramatic, my world was not ending. But let’s be honest, when you’re experiencing your first heartbreak and you’re young, it’s equivalent to the world ending. Getting back on track, those four words were not just coming from the people around me. They were something I felt deep in my soul, in a way that I knew it was God speaking them to me.
Change Is Good
It is a long journey working through heartbreak and I know what some are thinking, “it is just a break up, get over it.” While there is some truth to that, it is pretty vague and not very sympathetic. Let’s be real, you are not just departing from that person. You are departing from a version of yourself, perhaps even a routine that you were comfortable with. I cannot promise you all of this “change” is going to feel good. But, I can affirm to you, that change is good. It aligns you in the perfect position to rediscover yourself, values, and what you want out of life. Most of all, it allows you to learn some of life’s most valuable lessons, which may be the perfect fertilizer for your growth.
Change is good. It aligns you in the perfect position to rediscover yourself, values, and what you want out of life. Most of all, it allows you to learn some of life’s most valuable lessons, which may be the perfect fertilizer for your growth.”
Emilee Rachelle
At this point you may be thinking, “okay, so you say I am going to be alright and change is good for me, but how in the world do I actually work through what seems so messy?” I am here to share what I have learned over the past few years and what has helped me. I hope this will serve as a guide to help you, as you navigate heartbreak and the difficult realms within it. You are not alone, friend.
I have decided to make this a series otherwise this would be a very long blog post. This is the introduction, stay tuned. 🖤
